Ben’s it for me and I know he feels the same. We had such grand plans, after graduation, we’d go to the same college, earn our degrees, and get married. Then build a life together with two-point-five kids and a white picket fence. Ben always laughed when I described this idealist life, his ocean blue eyes would sparkle and he’d give me the sweetest kiss, promising to paint my fence any color I want. Anything to keep his Sunshine smiling bright and lighting up his day.
On Ben’s sixteenth birthday, four weeks ago, I gave him the most precious gift I had. We’d been burning for each other, coming so close to making love, but always choosing to save it for the perfect day. Taking the train into Chicago, we had dinner at a cozy little French restaurant. Then we took a walk in the unusually warm March weather, holding hands, and sizzling from the attraction arching between us. I led him to a boat docked out in a marina in Burnham harbor. My best friend’s family owns a slip and her parents were out of town, so she gave me the keys and told me to “rock Ben’s world.” We spent the most beautiful night together and I knew our future would be just as perfect as that night.
It seems like a lifetime ago, almost like a movie reel that I’m watching. This can’t possibly be my life, can it? Getting pregnant when you’ve used condoms is something that happens in books and movies.
The pregnancy test says otherwise, don’t you think?
I’m scared—absolutely terrified—that Ben won’t step up to the responsibility of being a teenage dad. We have two long years of high school left.
What if he decides that we aren’t worth navigating the rocky path ahead, and instead, he leaves me behind? Can I do this alone?
I’m still in shock, but somehow I know that I’ve already begun to love the little life inside me.
“Ben?” I try to keep my voice strong, but I can hear it shaking, my nerves getting the best of me.
He looks up, as though he’s just remembered I’m there, and his mouth begins to work, but no sound comes out. I’m preparing myself for him to run, but praying that he will be the Ben I love, who will always stick by me. Then, he reaches for me and pulls me into a tight embrace, his strong arms tempting me to let go and fall apart.
I feel his lips brush my temple and his warm breath on my ear. “We can do this, Victoria. It will be hard, but we’ll do it together. We’ve got this.”
He leans back and stares deeply into my eyes, his blues so intense they have darkened to sapphire. Another moment goes by, then the corners of his mouth drift up. “It’s what we planned, right? We’re just going about it a little backward.”
The relief is so great that it crashes over me like a wave and I can’t hold back anymore. I start sobbing into his shirt, and he simply holds me, swaying lightly, helping me purge all of my emotion. I love this man.
We’ve got this.
Two years later
There’s quite a crowd in my parent’s backyard today. It’s doubly large with Ben’s family here too—all here to celebrate.
We did it.
We graduated high school and we’ve both been accepted to Northwestern on scholarship. They have married, student housing and a daycare center on campus, and we move in six weeks from today. I’m so excited, I can barely contain it!
When we told our parents that we were having a baby, we were shocked at their response. While they were disappointed in us, they told us they would help and support us, as long as we continued to work hard, finishing high school and going to college. Ben asked my father for permission to marry me—I suddenly understood what it meant to swoon—and while I could see Dad’s hesitancy, there was respect in his eyes. We had a wedding in this very backyard two months later and my parents fixed up their basement like a little apartment for us to live in.
It wasn’t easy taking care of our precious little Sarah, learning to be a wife and mother at sixteen. My mother and Ben’s were amazing, and although they made Ben and I live up to our responsibilities, they stepped in whenever we hit a breaking point, giving just enough for us to keep going. Ben and I both quit sports, but since our goals were academic, we didn’t miss it much. We were so in love, and when our baby girl arrived, we couldn’t imagine ever being without her. She is the light in our lives, the best part of every day, every moment, and sometimes I wonder if it’s possible for a heart to burst because the love inside it is too great to be contained.
I grasp the zipper of my white graduation gown and the sunlight sparkles off of the tiny diamond in my wedding ring. Ben promised to replace it after college, but I love it, and I don’t need anything else. I divest myself of the scratchy polyester robe as I scan the crowd until I spot them. My husband is sitting in a lawn chair, playing peekaboo with our eighteen-month-old daughter. As Ben’s gotten older, his hair has darkened, but Sarah’s white, bouncing curls are tinged with red, like his, in all of his baby pictures. Her eyes are mine, though, wide and round, cornflower blue. Her cherub cheeks are pink as she giggles, the sound tinkling on the breeze. My heart squeezes tight again, the pain making me a little breathless. I never understood the saying, “I love you so much it hurts,” until I fell in love with Ben and Sarah. But, it’s the best kind of sting, not one of heartbreak, but the one that proves this is my reality, rather than a dream.
Ben sees me walking toward him and stands, whispering to Sarah and pointing my way. “Here comes your beautiful mama, Sarah Bear.”
She claps and giggles, calling out Mama and reaching for me.
Pain. This is real.
Once I’m standing in front of them, Ben winks at me—I make every effort not to melt—kisses my nose—mission failed—and passes Sarah into my arms. She slaps a hand on each of my cheeks and smacks a wet kiss on the end of my nose, just like her daddy.
Pain. This is real.
The crowd moves around us with hugs and congratulations. My mother takes Sarah over to the play set my dad built, with all the other children. Our large yard is fenced, but Ben’s younger sister, Chelsea, and my cousin, Danielle, are keeping an eye on them. I blow Sarah a kiss and turn to the table where Ben and I open gifts and cut our cake. He leans in and brushes a kiss over my ear, whispering that he loves me. Laughter and fun are all around me, my life is so full of love, and I’m grateful. Grateful for every pulse of that beautiful emotion as it expands and once again, the sting reminds me that this is my life. It’s real.
It’s time to eat, so Ben and I walk hand in hand over to the play area to get our daughter. Ben’s brow furrows and he looks around the yard. I follow his gaze and see nothing, then our eyes return to the group of children. I realize then why he is confused. There is no little tow-headed girl, in a sunshine yellow dress. I sigh, irritated with my cousin for not noticing Sarah’s absence. I warned her that Sarah like to play hide and seek, without telling you that she is going to hide.
“Chelsea?” Ben calls to his sister, frustration evident in voice, but my anxiety ratchets up when I hear the tinge of panic. “Where’s Sarah?”
I let go of Ben and begin walking around, searching through each crevice of the play set, then to every bush and tree, under all the tables. Ben is frantically looking on the other side of the yard and we continually call her name.
Chelsea stands among the other kids, wringing her hands and crying. I want to scream at her. How could she lose track of a toddler? But what good would that do in finding her?
Suddenly, I hear Ben shouting Sarah’s name and I run over to the gate in the fence. It’s open. Ben is dashing around the front and I follow at breakneck speed, my eyes darting everywhere all at once, my breath caught in my lungs, my heart no longer squeezing gently, but in a vice. Ben comes to an abrupt stop and I slam into him, bouncing back and almost falling to the ground. He catches me even though his eyes are glued to something in front of him.