Q: When you finish a novel, do you let your characters head into an unknown future or do you find yourself finishing their story in your mind’s eye?
AT: I feel a novel has come to its end when I can say, more or less, what the characters’ lives will be from here on out. So once I finish writing that last page, I no longer wonder about them or even (after a little good-bye pang) give them another thought.
Q: Joel is endlessly frustrated by the misuse and vulgarization of the English language while Delia embraces the fluid and ever-evolving nature of language. Where do you stand in this debate?
AT: Every example Joel objects to, I object to, but I agree when Delia points out that some of our most vivid language is the language that evolves from everyday usage. And I profoundly disapprove of Joel’s correcting poor Noah in midsentence-a habit that I hoped would suggest a certain authoritarian quality in Joel that parallels Sam’s.
Q: Could you describe your average workday?
AT: So routinized that it’s practically a ritual. I work in the morning, after some preliminary puttering that seems essential to the process. I write even if I’m not in the mood. (Sometimes my best work comes when I’m not in the mood.) And I make a point of quitting before midafternoon, when I go brain dead.
Q: How long did it take you to write this novel? How many drafts did you write?
AT: Two years, roughly. I wrote several pages in longhand, rewrote those in longhand once more, then typed them into the computer. When I’d finished the entire book this way, I wrote the whole thing over, again in longhand-the only way I seem able to catch tiny slips or false notes. I love the rewriting process; that’s when I can relax and play around, knowing that at least the bones of the story are in place.
Q: What character or plot point presented the greatest challenge to you?
AT: I had a very hard time justifying, to myself and to my readers, a mother’s walking out on her children. I tried to make it less appalling by giving her children who were almost grown, but it was still difficult.
Q: Do you ever suffer from writer’s block? If so, how do you get past it?
AT: Yes, from time to time. Almost invariably, I find that writer’s block arises from a subconscious realization that I’ve taken a wrong turn-forced a character into something he wouldn’t do, cheated somehow in the story line. If I don’t see where I’ve gone wrong in a day or two, I find it helps to go back to the start of the problem and painstakingly rewrite those pages by hand-a process slow enough so that I usually discover my misstep.
Q: What other books would you recommend for a reading group discussion?
AT: A newly published book, Nancy Clark’s The Hills at Home, has been making me laugh out loud. And I always think a prime selection for book clubs is Christina Stead’s The Man Who Loved Children, because readers argue so passionately for it or against it.
Reading Group Questions and Topics for Discussion
1. Why did Delia walk away from her family on that Delaware beach? And why did she stay away for so long?
2. Delia has always lived in a very crowded house. Discuss the pressures and rewards of several generations living under one roof.
3. Why doesn’t any member of Delia’s family ask her to come home? Do you think it would have made a difference?
4. Discuss how the world Dr. Felson once inhabited changes after his death.
5. Do you think the father’s death has freed the Felson sisters in some way?
6. Do you think Linda’s relationship with Sam mirrors her relationship with her father?
7. Delia and Ellie are both judged harshly for their decision to leave their families. Do you think society judges mothers more harshly than fathers if they leave?
8. At the beginning of the novel, Delia sees herself as “a tiny gnat, whirring around her family’s edges.” How does her perspective change over the course of the novel?
9. Eliza insists that Delia has memories of their mother, and Delia is incensed that Sam does not remember their very first meeting. Discuss the conflict that arises in this novel over the individualistic and idiosyncratic nature of family history and memory.
10. At the end of the novel, Delia concludes that “the people she had left behind had actually traveled further, in some ways.” What does she mean?
11. Delia concludes that “[u]nlike Nat’s… hers had been a time trip that worked.” Do you agree?
12. Do you think Nat and Binky will persevere despite all the obstacles in their path?
13. Delia has to learn how to dine out alone. What other kinds of public activities are awkward to do solo? Does it differ for men and for women?
14. Belle says, “[M]ost folks marry just because they decide they’ve reached that stage… Then they pick someone out.” Do you agree?
15. Do you think Eliza has been pining for Sam for all those years?
16. Delia finds support in unexpected places and from unexpected people. Did Eleanor’s support surprise you?
17. Eleanor tells Delia that after her husband’s death reading the dictionary comforted and distracted her. Discuss rituals and habits that offer comfort in times of need.
18. What do you think of the ending of this novel? Does it make emotional sense to you?
19. Share your favorite description of a character with the group.
20. What would you ask the author if you could interview her?
21. Did your group enjoy this novel? How does it compare with other works your group has read?
22. What is your group reading next? How do you make your selections?
Anne Tyler
